A co worker once asked her daughter who wanted a divorce if she could picture her life without her husband in it ever again. They stayed together. I asked myself that question when my ex and I split up but didn't really realize the impact because for 6 years after our divorce he was around and wanted to reunite. I took for granted he'd always be around but he finally "moved on" ( not really but he thought he could) and then he did irreparable damage to us. He's unhappy. I'm unhappy. But chances of working out again are slim. I often think I was a fool to give him up but I only remember the good times.