and lived a selfish life has continued to make it

I hear you loud and clear on this. Why does she keep going after she's had so many health issues? The family says she has 9 lives but I don't think that's funny. She's not their daughter. But, while I'm shelling out 100's of $$ to take care of her in rehab they come to visit once and they are so wonderful and amazing. It's hard to like her at times. I do not want her to die but if you look up selfish in the dictionary her name comes up. However, my parents and other family members spoiled her so terribly and taught her she did not have to obey me and in the end it was her downfall.