And my daughter knows all about Al Anon. She wanted me to go. She knows anything I've done has been to not enable her. She said today I was doing my best all along, but "grandma and aunt Diane were my allies". (her enablers)

In other words, I was outnumbered and they were telling her it was all my fault she turned to drugs. And she was believing it.

Did I mention they thought her dad was a saint? He worked for my dad on his farm? He was my dads golden boy because my brother joined the army as soon as he turned 18, knowing he was on his way to Vietnam, to get away from my dad. He hated my dad for good reasons. He never came back home. My ex husband (her dad) took his place as farm hand. He never got any "blame" for her drug use. I am starting to sound bitter when I long ago forgave all those people. I am sorry.