Are you saying he is just another admirer and not interested in you as youd like or that he does not know how to show interest or ask the right questions? I am curious because I see what you mean, and I will have to get involved with a man soon or lose my mind, and I want the same thing you write about. Men my age have been through hurts and other relationships, which can be good or bad. How do you get what you want without chasing them away?