Barbara, I have three daughters and never got to be the mother of the bride, and not one of them had their dad or stepdad walk them down the aisle. I missed that, and it bothers me often. I didn't expect them to have big weddings just for me, but I was sure out of 3, I would be the brides mother just once. Not to be. Our son had a big wedding, and I greatly helped the bride, but she had a mom. I was the mother of the groom, so I should be thankful. I understand what you planned was right for you. BTW I was five months pregnant when I got married at 18 and did not show at all!