Dear Lisa,

This is a hard story to read. It's not a rabbit hole you can easily climb out of when you are so involved with the major players. I won't lose my Grandchildren over my daughter's lifestyle. My husband also became alcoholic 25 years into our marriage. What a nightmare that was. I tried to stick it out but I couldn't make it. I felt I deserved more and better. It's been 7 years and I'm still alone. Just how do I explain my kids to a guy with "normal" children? Then my ex comes around wanting to reunite and since he understands all the kid's issues it's easy to think we should be back together to support each other but a gnawing in my brain says NO. Don't be a fool. He's been sober for 3 years now. It looks like drugs and alcohol have ruined our lives and we are not the abusers. Should we let it? How do we escape? PM me any time.