Do you think going with her to a counselor could help? Someone that could explain a little to her the dynamics going on here and how to cope with them? Someone other than you. Her father will twist it around to sound like you are being bitter but if your daughter hears from another kind person, it could make a difference in what she believes from him—just an idea. My heart goes out to you. I was fortunate. Although my daughter's father was a bit naughty at times, he was good about me for the most part.