"Grown-ass men" is used a lot on Medium. I think it's hilarious but still uses "men." I couldn't take one more devastating relationship, but I still look. I have not experienced this except for that one guy. Since he was 73 and had a sure bedfellow, he wasn't giving that up for me unless he knew I could top her, and I was not giving him that choice. I have slept with zero men since my husband seven years ago, which isn't very pleasant!