He was a great husband for 27 years, then the last 2 were a nightmare with his drinking, DUIs, bankruptcy, suicide attempt, and divorce after 29 years. We have gone out off and on for two years after our divorce. After our divorce, he even tried to kill himself (drunk), but obviously lived after many surgeries and rehab. He would jump off a cliff for me. Everyone knew this. I was aloof. I feared that if I committed back to him and he relapsed, I would be such a fool. I wanted him to be sober for at least two years, and then I would return with him. Because I always loved him but didn't like him and could not live with him after he became an alcoholic. No woman paid attention to him during that time. We are differently matched in looks. I am 5'6" and 136 pounds; he is 5'7" (on a good day) and 140 pounds. He aged fast and lost a lot of hair, things tough for men to face growing old. He's small for a guy, and I think they feel inadequate. I have not aged as fast and still look pretty good. This woman started to come to his house on Sunday mornings to "fellowship" maybe a year ago. I never knew. She was at our wedding. She's been around a long time, but we never saw her. She said they were friends, but it developed into something else, maybe in August. All this time, he was coming over and acting normal. Then, he leaves me and does not tell me why. I was very hurt and did not understand. Finally, my son told me he was in a serious relationship. I had no idea. He returned in October and wanted to resume our plan to remarry, but I was hesitant after the lies and secrets he had kept from me. And being such a coward, he couldn't have the balls to tell me. He sent me a text to say goodbye after 37 years. Then, he left again, saying he couldn't be with any woman at that time. I ran into him at the laundromat in November and smelled alcohol on him. I told him, and he said to leave him alone. He emailed early December about getting together for a conversation (not sure what about but out of his character because he been such a pussy all along) , and before we could do that, he got DUI #4. A felony in Ohio. Very serious. He was in jail for a month, sent home with an alcohol monitor, drank, and got sent back to jail for 90 days. He told his GF/fiancé he was going to an inpatient rehab for 90 days. He's not stood trial for his new DUI yet. AND I found out he was engaged to her even when he returned to me in October! I am sorry this is so long. It's a long story, and EVERYONE tells me to run. But I have great memories and was looking forward to rekindling our love again. Now, I am out completely. He is so ashamed and embarrassed. I am like a prize he gave up for a toad. Sorry, but she is mousey. I KNOW.....let him go.