Hey Sandy. The exact thing happened to me. I was the one who sent cards, bought gifts, and remembered occasions. Never him. When we met he said he didn't like his siblings (all 8 of them), hated his mother (always did until the day she died), and had occasional touch with his stepdad. That all changed when I came along. First of all, by marrying me he suddenly had more money. They all wanted loans. He and I had agreed on no loans from the get-go (it was mostly my money) but he may have done it behind my back.

I was so dumb when his family started treating me like garbage I didn't even realize that's what was happening.

He became a fool alcoholic and suddenly I was the POS that didn't want to live like that after several years, car wrecks in which people were injured, and 3 OVI's. The accidents brought on litigation and we lost everything but my 401K from work. But, I was still the POS.

You know what? I did not care. They were the losers, not me. They acted so sorry for me when he was going to jail, lost his license for 2 years, and caused our bankruptcy. But, when push came to shove they spat on me. I had a good family and friends and sure did not need them. Hold your head up and accept they are now done with you.

I know it hurts when your family still hangs around with him. My family chose my first ex over me all the time.

You are on your own. Love your kids, never talk bad about any of them, and look for that good life you deserve. I wish I lived by you. I could be your friend!