Hi Dee. I'm kind of going through that with my ex-husband. He became an alcoholic out of the blue 8 years ago. I just could not take all that was happening and the terrible things he was causing in our lives. (his alcoholism on top of my daughter's addiction about sent me over the bridge). I divorced him 5 years ago after he caused an accident and a woman was hurt. I spoke to an attorney that said my 401K and even inheritance could be messed with. Of course, she and her husband were suing. He was doing nothing to help himself but lying, lying. lying, to me.

Now he's been sober for 3 years. He has his AA friends and sponsor and 3 meetings a week and I feel left out. His whole focus used to be me. I'm a selfish girl😂. We were kind of working on getting back together but our lives are a million miles apart now. Sometimes I wish I could have stuck it. But losing all the money I needed to retire would have made me hate him.

Nice story. I never thought of it from this point of view. You worked hard for him and then for yourself.