Hi Esther. The last time I saw him was 11/12, when I realized he was drinking again. I was the only one that knew. I'm glad we never hooked up last week. We both want a life back that is dead and gone. There was hope until last summer. I will have nothing to do with him as he suffers through the long road ahead. At Minimum, he loses his DL for three years with no privileges, and his vehicle is gone now, too. It's all he had. He could have sold it for some money. She told a friend she was through with him, but I don't believe it. She is very sweet, quiet, and passive. I think she looked up to him for whatever reason. The bottom line is he remained with her, not me. I am sure he's ashamed and embarrassed to be around me. I am nothing like him and the life he now lives. My counselor says I have an unhealthy need to take care of him. Not anymore! Thanks for your comments. Where did my common sense go?