Hi Jean. I was so young I still felt like my parents were in charge. If they said they were taking my baby I just went along. Also, I did not want to get married and I’m sure my little girl sensed a lot of this between her dad and I. Yes, the attention was deep from my sister as well. She wanted children so badly and has several miscarriages so my little girl was like balm to her. But all this was not good for my daughter because my sister was soon able to have a baby and my daughter was once again pushed aside. I am not sure how I could have prevented or avoided this but it’s all in the past now. I don’t know if she had a biological tendency. Her father and I rarely had any alcohol in the house and neither of us even smoked. My parents had a whole bar at anyone's disposal. My dad ended up being alcoholic after he retired but other than that no family members I know of had that tendency. However, I had very little contact with any of her fathers family after we divorced and there may have been tendencies on that side.

I saw her today for the first time in months, We talked about her addiction and she always says it was not me. That I am the only one who ever loved her unconditionally even though I went the Al Anon way and stopped enabling her. Her dad was the one she wanted attention from and he did not give any of his daughters much attention at all. While their step dad was coaching their softball teams, their dad was attending his friends sons baseball games. I know my girls were hurt. And step dad was not the same. Anyway, thank you for your insight and I appreciate hearing it.