Hi Judy. I stumbled upon you here when I looked up couples counseling, and glad I did. My ex and I started couples counseling to see about getting back together. I thought the counselor would not be helpful when he said he never counseled ex-spouses that wanted to reunite, and he was thinking of suggesting we go do "our thing" for six months and come back then. That seemed a clue that he was not up to helping us. I said I did not want to go to him, but my ex found him, and he was supposedly a Christian counselor he found through Focus on the Family. This man had a cluttered office which I found distracting, and I saw his butt crack when he bent over. He was wearing old jeans and a band T-shirt. He was my age ....over 65. It was just the wrong impression for me all the way around. That was the end of that endeavor, and now we are estranged again. I am unhappy about it.