Hi Patrick. I can't imagine what its like for a spouse to die, but I know that grief takes time. One widower I also dated around the same time had been single for only five months. I cut that off for the same reasons as the others....too soon. He had not even had a Thanksgiving or Christmas without her. But, I saw him a few weeks ago and he's getting remarried already. Everyone is different but to get on a dating site and still wear your wedding ring is a sure sign you should not be dating. Thanks for the link. I will read your story now.