Hi Rayleen. You are right. My daughter has had some issues and has even been hospitalized. I don't think her husband wants the kids, but he has a snarky family that could talk him into getting them away from my daughter and raise them in Amish country. It's an ugly mess. They were doing well when I saw them at Christmas. Now, I have not been able to contact her for a week. That isn't unusual though. Always worries. My parents never had to worry about their kids like we do. I can pray for your situation. Since your grandson is older I thought he was able to choose?