Horrible. And the creep your ex is. If Stan lays a hand on your daughter, I would kill him if I were you right after you kill your ex. These people are all sickos. I wish you could escape and move to another country! I am so sorry, Taylor. No wonder you have not been able to write about this before. It's shocking. And your mother? Once, my ex pushed one of my girls against the wall. I told him he should pack his bags and get out. Never touch one of my kids again. He apologized to her, we discussed it with her, and it never happened again but did get back to my family, who came down on me as if I was Lizzie Borden. And, of course, my ex became evil and horrid. Divorce, in most forms, takes away so much of your control over your own children. My family told my girls they didn't have to obey me or my husband. We were bad parents—all kinds of horrible stuff. I cut them off for a long time, but their dad took them to see them anyway. It remained a cluster F__k for years, even after all the wonderful fatherly things my husband did for the kids. I'm sorry you are under such duress.