How do you find the silver lining, Emily? I'm still crying and in knots over my ex leaving me for someone else after I thought we were reuniting. Even though I know, that would not have worked out. How come I feel so shitty about something I put off for six years, knowing it would never happen? I feel like death. Sick all the time. A mental and emotional mess. Where is the silver lining here? I am desperate to find it, to understand why the reality and my emotions are not lining up.