I am still closer to my family and sometimes in toxic ways! We did everything with my family. My parents took all of us on a cruise and also to Aruba one Christmas. He had perks in my family that his family were in awe of. Get this: When my parents were taking us on the cruise, my mom and dad stopped over at my house one day, and my dad asked if he could ask my first husband to come, too. I almost died and said no way!! I liked my first husband, but how would that have made my ex feel? I never told him about it. It would have hurt him so much. That's how much my dad loved my first husband, which made it very hard to split up with him.