I can relate, but only with respect to my ex. I am positive I still love him and should be with him. I have built a fantasy around all the good times and fun and intimacy we had that I never had with anyone else. Most of it is true, but it was long ago. As far as Jon goes, I never built up any fantasy around him. I really speak in all selfishness because I like to be taken out and go to the theatre and baseball games and masquerade balls, and I won't have that anymore if we split. Was this a guy from work? or your past? How did he slip a note into your box? I bet you felt good about ditching him. I had a similar incident last Christmas with a guy I thought was super and one night; he told me he had another girlfriend he had been sleeping with. I had not slept with him, thank God. I drove home crying. He sent me flowers and candy the next day, saying he thought we had a good thing. I don't give a F___ what you think. What don't you understand? I never want to see you again. Then, last Christmas, he asked me to go to dinner, and at dinner, I realized he was a real jerk and was still seeing his GF. I was so happy to push him away when he tried to kiss me. It was bye-bye and don't come back.!!