I can't understand how this happens but it's prevalent. A lot of parents use money to keep their kids close by. That's too sad and not something I consider wise. I just go on with my life. My son is estranged from his father for reasons I understand. But I rarely hear from him either. It hurts but beating my head against a brick wall is useless. Sometimes ignoring them, as difficult as it is, is the best solution. Accept your life without him in it and someday he will come back to the fold. You can't do anything about it and obviously he feels power over you. He has to decide to be your son. Who does he call mom?