I do understand that but I am 68 and I need to live my life. My heart just keeps yanking me back to a place I know I do not belong. This attachment to my ex is killing me. I saw 2 therapists that tell me what I already know. I have a new guy (someone I have known forever) but I'm not in love although I don't think he knows that. I have it all and yet I go into the past and remember that love for my ex and just cry. So, I am counting on time to heal me and I hope it hurries up! My guy is coming today from Florida (Im in Ohio where he lives in the summer and is from) and he's coming for Valentines Day. He cares about me a lot. He is showing it. My counselor said make 2 lists. One with the things your ex says and one with what he does.....what a wake up call that was. He's all talk, no action, and he's in jail for a long time now, too.