I find all you've had to go through ridiculous. Maybe it's not good but mine was so simple. My ex felt so guilty I made him take stuff. My attorney set it up for me to get everything in the house and all my pension and 401K. In all, fairness he deserved some of the money I got when I sold the house. He had done a ton of work on the house. He did not get an attorney. His heart was always to remarry me when he got sober for at least 2 years. That had been my request. That lasted 6 years but he kept getting

DUIs and was almost 2 years sober when he ditched me for someone else. Then his life went to shit. Lost his job, relapsed, then got another DUI. #4 so he went to jail for 4 months, and came out with zero, no place to live, huge fines, and claimed social security to live on. He moved in with his new girlfriend. It's been very hard to take. I was beginning to respect him again and I thought we had a pretty good thing going. I am happy his life fell apart when he left me. So many have pointed that out to him, even our pastor. He says he can't see me or face me. I want him to be miserable but he'll probably stay with the GF because he can't get anyone else with what he has to offer a woman. He's lonely so she solves all his problems for him. BUT, she told me, not that I asked, she's developed high morals and won't sleep with him until he marries her. TMI