I find myself in this mess, and I will stop just now, especially after reading this article. Ironically it's my ex-husband who has wanted to get back together until last August, and once I said OK, he backed off. So, I think I can win his heart since he loved me so much, and why he backed off, I don't know. It's not another woman now but one had been paying attention to him (first one since our divorce in 2016 because he only stopped drinkng 2 years ago and got the blowbox off his truck last Novemeber and who wants to date a guy like that??) and I didn't even know about her until my son told me so he was playing me by acting like he still loved me. I know as I write I feel dumber and dumber so I'll stop. Thanks for the timely article!