I hate to say your comment makes me feel better, David, but I divorced my husband of 29 years for alcoholism (I could not live with it any longer and stay sane, let alone out of debt), and I still feel guilty to this day that I did not stand by him. It's been six years, and he just got his 4th OVI. Now he has a felony. He wanted to remarry, and I told him last year that if he made it two years sober, I would consider it. But he fell short of that, found himself a girlfriend I never knew about, and months later, even after he was still pursuing me, she tells me they have been engaged all along! Talk about a kick in the teeth! I confronted him, could tell he'd been drinking, and two weeks later, he was in jail. God saved my butt; that's all I can say. My fear of him relapsing if I remarried him was not in vain. I hope you're doing well now. I am a retired nurse and glad to be out of the medical field. How about you?