I have a daughter who makes these excuses. I stopped listening and told her that if she is unwilling to do anything, then do not complain to me. Right now, she has $50,000 socked away in an account in my name as she plans a grand escape that will probably never happen and he will end up killing her, or maybe himself for the best outcome. She knows he's dangerous. The police do not care because she will not file a formal complaint no matter what I tell them. He's cheated on her with a niece (Yep, a NIECE!). How low can you go? Her self-esteem is in the toilet.