I have a totally fractured family, too. It kills me. After my dad passed in 2010, we did ok. But once my mom passed in 2020, it was over. No sibs came from out of town. Now, since my ex and I split up, I was lucky to have my four kids here at Christmas. He spent Christmas with us for the last six years after our divorce in 2016, but this year he was in jail. Talk about messed up! I have to accept it's over. We do not celebrate any holidays at all except Christmas and as I said, I was lucky to be able to do that this past year. One daughter married into a family that celebrates every holiday so she goes with them. My oldest daughter barely knows what a holiday is. One thing for certain is that guys tend to migrate to the females half side and I'm sorry that looks like it may happen to you. I hope not. It hurts and I can tell from your writing it bothers you a lot. Last easter I went to a friends family dinner with her even though I have 4 kids. Not a one invited me over.