I have purposely tried to not play the "you are so strong" card when commenting on you. Although I do think you are a tough, smart, cookie, I know that label makes you wonder if anyone has read what you have written. You have suffered and that is not the definition of strength. Because you are human and you took on a terrible blow that snuck up and bit you in the ass. That useless-ass attorney deserves 22K like I deserve an Oscar for Best Director. What a bastard. I went straight to a woman.
But it's too late for that now and you are rebuilding as best you can. I swear the ex (and the attorney) will get his due. Karmas is a bitch.