I have struck out for five years on dating apps, and I always knew what I wanted. It was the men who couldn't figure it out. Have you had any success? One thing I swore off after this past spring was recent widowers. These guys jump online before the wife is in the ground, but....they expect you to replace her! Ummm, that's not possible; thus, a problem arises. Won't do it anymore unless it's been two years or more. Anyway, online dating for me is different than it is for you because I am in a different age range. A highly competitive one! Many women and few men!