I imagine you get judged constantly and these "perfect" people do not know the history of what happened to you. Not thats it's their business. Mandy, I can't imagine how your heart has been broken.

Sometimes I think my grandkids are God's gift to me to make up for the way my children act. My girls were told all their problems were my fault (I divorced their dad (for no reason??), married an asshole (according to them), and ruined their lives. My son does not think or act like my daughters because my family never cared for him. They didn't try to influence him. He is from my second marriage when my mother told me I was stupid for wanting another child. The implication was I wasn't taking care of the ones I had. WRONG. They were making it hard for me to care for my girls in so many ways including preferring their father over me. I stuck it out and forgave them even though they weren't sorry. There is so much family conflict now. It runs deep throughout my siblings and my children. Just as I imagine yours does.