I just broke up with a guy who seemed to adore me, but he did not listen to me. He could not carry on a conversation with me even though he was well-educated. He blamed his 2 ex-wives for all his woes. There was no way I could convince myself to be attracted to him. Does your book explain that? I will have to check it out. Attraction is SO important. Once you have experienced it in life, nothing else will do regardless of flowers, gifts, dates, and dinners.