I made that saying up. I wish I could coin it! It's what I have found in life, especially with my ex. He and I were polar opposites when we got together. He changed because he saw that my life and standards were what he wanted. And he wanted me. I'm so sad it only lasted 29 years. Yes, dating now is tough. I was divorced at 61, and I felt so young then and sure I would find someone new right away. I underestimated the love I had for my ex.

I am ready to cut extra slack to a man because of our lives behind us, but I won't be tricked. After all these helpful comments, my antennae are up.