I realized as I got older, say high school, that I had a bunch of aunts and uncles that were so kind to me. One uncle was a dickhead but he was an uncle by married once removed.

I decided I would never reprimand my nieces, nephews, or grandkids unless they were in danger.

I want their memories of me to be good forever.

You do have a very mean cousin from the sounds of it. I can't blame you for not visiting.