I was so clueless when my daughter started 28 years ago. I never was around drugs/drunk,s either. It took me so long to get a grip on her disease. Then my ex was around; he knew more than me but never talked much about it. I have disengaged myself from him completely, except for our son. He rarely sees our son anyway. I got the shittiest end of the stick of everyone involved, but no one seems to see that. I am sure his ex-fiance is no longer an ex because she adored him. Plus, he trusted "only her" to take care of "a few things" at his house when he was in jail. She's so "important. "I don't care. It helps me stay away. I know God is on my side and has warned me for over a year. It took drastic measures to save me, but I am so thankful. Thanks for your great comment. All of this helps me more than you know.