I wish I had understood more about alcoholism before I divorced my husband. All I knew was that he could not possibly love me if he was getting drunk all the time, hurting me, being cruel, and hiding. I started Al-Anon after I filed for divorce. I'm not saying it would have saved our marriage, but I may have been less intimidated and broken. But it has been seven years, and he just relapsed again and got his 4th OVI. I don't know if I could have continued with the downward spiral.