I wish my ex would speak to me. He is in a terrible place in life, and we had such a good rapport in the past. I understood him because he told me all the despicable issues his mother brought about. It took him over 29 years to confide his worst secrets to me, and I strongly doubt he's telling anyone else that stuff now. So many of the poor choices he made over the last couple of years reflect his insecurity and lack of motherly love as a child. He can't see me, and the reason IMO is his shame and embarrassment for what he did to me and the kids in the end. Then, there was jail time for a felony, and that doesn't make too many kids proud of dear old dad. None of them speak to him.