I wonder if there are "companion" sites? I hear you about any dating site. Men my age can get women in their 40s. They don't want me. I was dating guys 5-6 years older than me. The last guy I went out with several times was a widower of only a year. He still wore his wedding ring and never made any "I like You" moves on me. Finally, I just asked him what he was doing on a dating site because wedding rings were not a good sign. He was just clueless. "I'll know when I meet the right woman." I guess it wasn't me. I told him I didn't need another friend, so bye-bye. And I said to him that was selfish of him. I should have bowed out a soon as he mentioned the ring, which I had not noticed. I thought he said he couldn't get it off and would need it cut, so I understood. That is not the case. But, he would be a good guy for you. I'm sorry you lost your mate. That is hard to imagine. Even if my ex, after 29 years married, passed away, I would feel terrible.