I’ll admit my first divorce made it easier for me to leave my second marriage although the reasons were much more serious. I was drowning in a pool of my own tears due to alcohol, lies, shame, and truly feeling unloved. We tried to reunite just recently since he’s now been sober 2 years and that’s when I said I’d try again. But a lot of water has gone over the dam in the last 6 years and leaving the past behind is a big challenge although neither one of us found anyone new. Time will tell I guess but we did go to counseling and I waited years before finally giving up. He just kept showing up drunk so counseling was unsuccessful to say the least. I see marriages where each one hopes the other one dies first. Seriously. And men that have had no sex for years because that’s how his wife punishes him for drinking. One thing leads to another doesn’t it? My first husband and I remained friends until his death because that’s all we really were to start with.