I'll never figure out what happened to my ex. He's 65 so past mid life. Was he trying to get back at me for the six years of being divorced? Was he proving to himself he could get another woman? Proving it to me? Whatever he was thinking, it sent him into an ugly tailspin as he tried to extricate himself from his family, neglecting to tell us why. That caused bitterness and hurt. He was a coward. And it was obviously killing him. Anyway....he's in trouble now. Every time he's ever relapsed, it's been because of me. I don't know about this time. I won't own that excuse but that's what he's said.