I'll tell you what everyone tells me...don't be so hard on yourself. Recognizing there's a problem is half the battle. Why not tell your kids how you feel and would like their help changing a bit. That could be cool. Dating is a pain. After you've had a comfortable relationship with someone, it's hard to start over by watching all your moves to be on your best behavior blah, blah, blah. Why can't we just jump in and get it on? It's such a game.