I’m going to sound like an absolutely heartless person, but how nice of him to die. That tied things up pretty well, didn’t it? I can just hear the crap and lies he was going to feed you once you saw his phone, laptop, and FB. You would have been more traumatized than you already had been. It’s easier to forgive and forget a dead guy. If he hadn’t died you may not have met your husband. Karma.