I'm pretty sure this is me. I cannot come close to that kind of intimacy if I don't know, trust, and feel safe with a guy. I divorced in 2016, and I'm sure I have not had sex since 2015. I've had a lot of dates, but my longest relationship was 5 weeks after my divorce. That ended because I would not sleep with him, so he was not my guy anyway, but I cannot/will not be sexually attracted until I know someone very well. I think it's just my Catholic upbringing. I'd sleep with my ex-husband in a minute if he came back!