Isn’t that amazing? All along the things you felt were bonding you together were things he easily forgot. Nothing counts but the “right now”. It’s a real stab in the back and when you look around and see who’s holding the knife you wonder if you’d really wasted so many years of your life with this snake. I know you are long past that cruel shocking day and I admire you for the tenacity you’ve shown in pulling yourself plus 9 other lives out of the hole your ex tried to shove you in.