It took me two years to decide to leave my husband. I didn't feel loved at all and my self esteem was nil; before that, he had been wonderful to me. I was so shocked. It's been seven years, and we talked about reuniting last year. But he went off the deep end last summer, got his 4th DUI, and is in jail. He belongs with me. He's sober with me in his life. At Al-Anon, I feel so much guilt for having left him. But we were about to lose every penny we had, and even though we went bankrupt, I could keep some investments that were only in my name. I pictured growing old with no money and nursing an alcoholic. Ugh...