It was 29 years of marriage, and the following 6 years, he tried to get back together with me. He is an alcoholic. I could not live that way. He left me because he thought he found someone better. Not much I could say because I had refused to remarry him until he could be sober for 2 years. He almost made it, but when he left me, in a cowardly way, he got drunk and got his 4th DUI. That's a felony in our state, so now he has that label. He can't drive for another 3 years. She took him in after his 6-month jail term, but they are supposedly just friends. He's estranged from our four children now. He's messed up. What a sob story. I have found other friends since he left. With that kind of friend I trusted, I needed no enemies.