It was a horrible thing for me to do, and much of it was fear on his part. He never had much money, and the way I was raised, if I needed money, I knew how to earn it, borrow it, or find it. I had been married before and had three small children when we got married. I was more savvy about finances and also had a better job. As the years went by, he grew to understand that I would not run us into the ground financially. He managed to do that himself after 29 years of marriage when we lost everything to bankruptcy... to my surprise!