It's fortunate my son-in-law is raising them but my grandson spends a lot of time alone. He's a gamer. I hate his games but he needs something and doesn't want to watch TV. He's an A+ student. If I had had to raise them it would be tough. I was caring for my mom and going through a lot of heartaches too.
But I would have stepped up in a minute if they were not being cared for. I cannot imagine what your friends went through because I feel too old to raise kids anymore.