I've been telling him these issues all along. One big sit-down will be redundant. He will back off when he senses my change. I don't feel romantic at all anymore. And he always wants to touch, hold hands, etc. That also drives me nuts! It's not always feasible, like today, on a 2-foot wide sidewalk. Jeez... I'm stumbling along because he wants to hold hands. It's a shame because if I fall for someone I want to touch all the time, too! I've gotten myself into a terrible mess, but the comments about NPD scare me the most. If the moment arises, I will ease in with your technique and let you know how it goes. I think there's another story brewing here.