Jenny, we had an equal marriage for a long time. I was the spoiled one for most of it. I am just saying he finally did get sober, and we would still be together if we stayed married. But that drinking, law-breaking, and lying killed my "in love" part. I never stopped loving him. We have talked about getting back together over the past couple of years, but I never had that sexual interest even though I tried. I was getting there starting a few weeks before his goodbye, but when I told him, it was too late. However, I believe it would not have been a good marriage, and it may have failed again. My distress is over him just cutting me off after I depended on him a lot, talked to him every day, and thought he needed me. He had just written how much he loved and needed me. The cruel, backstabbing way he dumped me is painful, shocking (to everyone), and cowardly. It's just not his character, so she must be a fantastic piece of ass.