Liars. The worst. It was the last thing I would have expected from him but looking back I saw the red flags. I have been unsuccessful for 5 years. But, my ex is still around and wants to be together and I know I couldn't give him up completely unless the new guy was Mr. Woderful. So, I may not be "all in" either. But, it's not sexual like this guys is. He had the nerve to call me at Xmas and ask me to dinner. I asked him if he still had his girlfriend and he said yes. They have a nice little arrangement he doesn't want to give up but he wants someone else like me, too. Screw that. I asked him how she would feel knowing he was asking other women out. JERK!! You are in a different age group right now so if you had to, dating would be easier. My ex is a pretty wonderful guy to me. He just started to get drunk and do very stupid things and I cut out. I feel a little guilty about it at times. But, his accidents involved losing my inheritance and I knew I needed that no matter what. He's been sober for 3 years now.